Emotional Intelligence Training – January in southern California

Emotional Intelligence Training

EnneaMotion: The Somatic Enneagram

January 11-1i7  •  Glen Ivy  •  Corona, CA (southern CA)

Often, the question arises, “What is emotional intelligence?” I have many ways of answering, including the ability to be emotionally flexible and appropriate in how we respond, so we can do so in a way that best serves the moment, no matter what. This is supported by living a life of wholeness and balance — important ingredients of emotional intelligence. After all, a life of wholeness and balance elicits a quality of tranquility, increased ease in our relationships, including the important relationship we each have with ourselves, and the wonderful side effects of happiness and joy.

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE TRAINING

EnneaMotion, the Somatic Enneagram

The next training is January 11-17 at Glen Ivy, a beautiful retreat center in southern California. It’ll be an experiential approach using movement and the body’s intelligence to re-pattern the brain in a way that increases emotional intelligence.

If you go, you will experience –

• grounding exercises;
• simple, easy-to-use tools to support your heart in moving towards wholeness;
• techniques for quieting the mind;
• an experiential approach to the Divine through the Holy Ideas of the Enneagram, and
• a connection to Source.

Read more about this work at TheInnerSide.com.

Registration:

$1750 (double room); 1960 (private room)

Contact: Andrea@TheInnerSide.com or +1-518-265-5058.

Emotional Intelligence and Leadership

Thanks to Daniel Goleman, the concept of Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is receiving its due recognition. In fact, many leadership programs around the country are including a module on Emotional Intelligence.

Thanks to some recent sound advice, I’ve been attending local programs sponsored by the Chambers of Commerce in my area. Every community, every town, every city, has its own chamber, and they all offer programs, some quite interesting and relevant to sole business owners and trainers like me. At these events, I have the opportunity to network and give my 30-second elevator speech to people in the local business community. I’ve leaned that two of my local chambers have joined forces with business leaders and local college faculty to design programs on EQ. As I talk with them, I learn they are teaching the theory of EQ.

This is great, and I applaud them. AND I want to shout at the top of my lungs — HERE IS THE EXPERIENTIAL COMPONENT — AN EASY-TO-USE TOOL THAT WILL INCREASE YOUR EQ! Why is this so irresistible to me and so hard to sell to the business sector?

The work I do of re-patterning neuron pathways that determine how we respond emotionally, works. I’m happy to offer a free sampler-training for any corporation willing to give it a try.

Corporate America began “Casual Friday,” “work from home,” and other “out of the box” approaches to enhance employee satisfaction. This training will enhance communication skills at home, with friends, and yes, AT WORK! Your business needs it. Your company’s success depends in large part on how well you and your employees communicate with each other as well as with customers.

Good communications skills and leadership skills are not an option if you want to be successful.

This program will give you the tools to improve your communication and increase your — and your employees’ — emotional intelligence.

Give it a try!

EQ, the Law of Attraction, and Living a Life of Integrity

“EQ” is how I affectionately refer to Emotional Intelligence.

So much is being said these says about the movie, The Secret. It’s about the Law of Attraction, with the primary message that thoughts create our reality and that positive thinking can make us happier.

This isn’t a new message. At my massage therapist’s office the other day, I saw this quote on the waiting room wall:

Your beliefs become your thoughts.
Your thoughts become your words.
Your words become your actions.
Your actions become your values.
Your values become your destiny.

– Mahatma Gandhi

Yes, even Gandhi knew about this. No surprise.

The message is everywhere. I’ve been teaching the same principles in my work since 1993. The words I use are slightly different, but have the same implication.

The Reality Creation Cycle
I call it the “Reality Creation Cycle.” The cycle can begin with either thoughts, feelings or actions. And then the other two are affected. This is a fundamental principle.

Your thoughts affect your feelings and your actions, which reinforce your thoughts.
Your feelings affect your thoughts and your actions, which reinforce your feelings.
Your actions affect your thoughts and your feelings, which reinforce your actions.

This cycle determines how you act, respond and behave.
It determines how you project yourself into your life.
It determines your reality.

If you want to change your reality, you have to break the cycle.
Thinking the change often isn’t enough.
Emotionally wanting the change often isn’t enough.

When we want to change a behavior, response or attitude and it isn’t happening, we’re not in what I call an “internal state of integrity” — the thinking, feeling and acting centers are out of alignment with each other.

Change, especially emotional change, is often difficult.

When change is difficult, a step is missing. The Missing Step is working with the body.
There are ways to train the body that can initiate the change.

That is what EPI does. It trains different thinking and feeling patterns by training new neuron pathways. Once new pathways are trained, it becomes easier to access a greater variety of inner (thinking and feeling) states, and it becomes easier to initiate change.

I’ll illustrate with examples in a future blog.

Live Podcast: Emotional Intelligence

This morning I was inteviewed by Bill Martin, host of a radio program in White Plains (NYC area), called the
Bill Martin & Lisa Colin Weekly Radio Program Celebrating Exceptional Achievement

Both he and Lisa are lawyers, and their personal passion is about transformation. In surfing the web, Bill found my site and invited me on the show. I thought the interview went really well. He was very thoughtful in his questions, and had obviously read my website. He asked how my work helps people change, and had great questions about the brain. That of course gave me the opportunity to talk about neural pathways, which if you know my work, you know how much I loved that! He also asked me to define “physical antidotes” which I illustrated with a few examples, including confidence and patience.

I talked about using sound, or a mantra, and a body position, or a mudra (though I didn’t use the Sanskrit words on the air!) to develop, train and strengthen new neuron pathways, and how that can help expand one’s emotional palette, or Emotional Intelligence.

It all happened in about 20 minutes, but was a great encapsulated description of the EPI work. You can listen to the podcast at their website, and I’ll eventually be posting it here and on my website.

Take a listen and let me know what you think!

Emotional Intelligence: Wholeness and Integrity

Do you want to live a life of wholeness and integrity? I do! At least, I’ve always wanted to, though it hasn’t always worked that way.

What I learned later in life was that I wasn’t living in integrity to myself. And THAT is the foundation of living an external life of integrity. Having suffered to some degree because of that, and not wanting to re-live it, I’ve investigated how NOT to do that again.

Here’s what I learned.

Listening to your body (and the three centers)

There are certain events or decisions that need to be made with only one center. Take paying taxes, for instance. It’d be a good idea to work on your tax forms with your head, or thinking center. If you do it with your heart center, you just won’t get through it!

If you’re making a decision about a loved one, you may need focus on your heart center, the center which gives you the feeling of being connected to another.

If there’s an accident or emergency, it’d be important to respond instinctively from your belly or gut center.

With many other decisions, like “Should I marry so-and-so,” or “Should we buy that house?”, you may be at a fork in the road with a decision that could change a substantial amount of your future.

THIS is a time to respond with wholeness and integrity. THIS is a time to have UNANIMOUS agreement between your three centers. Actually, ANYtime you are at a turning point in your life and you have a decision to make would be a good time to focus on your internal wholeness.

Here’s how: Start by going inward. Notice your body.

Then:
• Notice your belly center.
• Ask your belly center “the question”
• Be quiet; wait.
• Notice what you feel like in your belly center.

Then:
• Notice your heart center.
• Ask your heart center “the question”
• Be quiet; wait.
• Notice what you feel like in your heart center.

And then:
• Notice your head, or thinking center.
• Ask your head, or thinking center “the question”
• Be quiet; wait.
• Notice what you feel like in your head, or thinking center.

If you can make a major decision with all three centers in agreement, you are in internal alignment and you are in integrity with yourself. And now you can be 100% behind your decision. That is the foundation of living a life of wholeness.

Now you have a chance of living an external life of integrity.